Thursday, 6 February 2014

What if you're being lied to?

There have been some posts floating around the blog world about telling little white lies. But what if you're the one being lied to?

Last week, I sent a package - and paid extra for express shipping - to my dad's house; he would be home to sign for it (if I sent it to my house, it would have been sent to the post office, which has ridiculous hours and I never would have been able to pick it up). I told him to call me as soon as it arrived. It was really important to me. He said he would. 

This past Wednesday (as in yesterday) rolls around and I still hadn't heard from him, so I gave him a call. 

"Oh yeah. Your package came."

"Why didn't you tell me? I needed it yesterday!"

"Sorry. I forgot."

"When did it come?"

"Yesterday. It was left outside."

"Dad, I'm looking at the tracking number. It said it was delivered on Monday."

"It came yesterday."

Uh, this says it came on the 3rd. That was Monday.

You have to understand; I have prided myself on the knowledge that my dad doesn't lie. Ever. In fact, sometimes he's too honest. 
"Dad, how does this shirt look?"

"It's a nice shirt; it just doesn't look good on you."

(True story.)
When I learned that my dad may have told me a little white lie, I was crushed. Maybe he really is telling the truth and the tracking number is wrong. Whatever the case, at the end of the day, someone lied (my dad or Canada Post). Plain and simple, it sucks.

How do you feel about being lied to?

Are little white lies okay?


  1. I would be inclined to believe my dad, but that is strange and annoying. This is why I often get things mailed to my office.

  2. Aw, what a bummer. I think I would be upset too. :(

  3. Well, I love my dad and all but sometimes he does things without realizing. Like, for instance, I would believe that my dad would have truly *thought* it came Tuesday but it really came Monday and he either forgot what days were which and/or it really came Monday, but didn't see it until Tuesday. They're getting older and sometimes these little confusions happen!

    It is a little disheartening realizing you're being lied to though, if that is the case here. If so, I'd take it with a grain of salt because he's your dad and they're not perfect but they're our dads. I guess they deserve the benefit of the doubt right?

  4. Ugh hate that kinda stuff. Tell him you'd rather be told the truth, or at least that is what I tell people in those situations. Wah. Homegirl right here will never lie to you, love youuu

  5. awww thats sad. but im sure your dad might just feel bad he forgot so he was trying to cover his ass?

  6. I think little white lies hurt just as bad as a huge one! Especially if I ask if I look ok and you know i really dont lol

  7. OUr tracking system with USPS is horrible and NEVER accurate...if that's any consolation. But, I don't like any type of lies...even small ones. They all hurt...they all lower trust.

  8. ah that's frustrating, especially if it's something you really needed on a certain day. hopefully the post service is the liar!
    -- jackie - jade and oak

  9. sometimes i tell white lies, but i should probably be better about it.

  10. I was going to chime in with I've had really poor luck with mail tracking things as well! I try my best not to lie, but there are times when I think that it's necessary just for maintaining cordial relationships in certain situations. Example: Friend A: (holding up newborn baby) He's beautiful isn't he? Friend B: Ummm....mmmhhmmm (whereas really thinking he looks a little Rob Ford)

    But then there are other times when friends need to hear the ugly truth. Example: Friend A: Look at my new fuzzy green beanie hat. Isn't it? Friend B: No, that's f@$%ing ugly. Take it off. You'll never get a boyfriend wearing that. x

  11. ugh how frustrating! however i do think white lies are ok!

  12. sometimes that does happen. the mail peeps are often late and most of the time, CP outsources their delivery so that shit can stay in that person's trunk for days, even though it was delivered on time to the post office. i have a friend who works at the post office and this is what he tells me and i believe it because the guy delivering our mail isn't "CP branded" - he's a guy who has been hired by CP to deliver mail because i see him hauling shit to and from his regular car trunk!

    Vodka and Soda

  13. That happened where they said they delivered it but they put it at the wrong door and I saw from my tracking it was "delivered" then the next day it magically wound up on my doorstep....quite odd!

    Meet @ the Barre

  14. White lies are okay when you're saving someone's feelings.. to an extent. I think that it's important to tell the truth if someone asks for it.. like, is this story I wrote good?! If in fact it isn't, it's okay to say that it was good but there were some parts you didn't understand or didn't follow. That way, you didn't say it sucked, but you didn't say it was THE BEST thing you've ever read. It also depends on how close you are to the person you are white lying to. It's a toss up. But I'd like to say that YES, it's okay as long as it's little and to save hurting someone's feelings..!!

  15. I'm a brutally honest person. Notice how I said brutally. It's actually something I need to work on. Not because I think lying is ever okay... but I think that sometimes I just need to have a little more tact. I'm not into the white lies thing though. I'd rather be honest and have someone get mad at me than lie and have to cover it up for the rest of forever.

  16. Ohhhh, i can't stand liars!! The truth is ALWAYS better, even if it hurts.
    And um, your e-card made me bust out laughing!!!
    I'm sorry you were lied to!

  17. I don't like lies, big or small. But I've learned that people tell lies to cover themselves or when they feel like they have no other options. Some lies are ok, if they're told to prevent hurting someone. Like telling someone they don't look fat, when they may have put on some weight. But lying for no apparent reason is just unacceptable.


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