I'm Going To "Officially" Unfriend You

The other day I was talking to a friend about a going away party she's having. She mentioned she invited her ex-best friend who, for arguments sake, we'll call Cathy. She sent her the invite on Facebook, yet despite Cathy clearly logging into Facebook multiple times since the invite was sent (as seen from her Facebook activity), Catchy did not respond.

In response, my friend said to me, "I think it's time I officially unfriend her."

Me: "I thought you already did. You guys haven't spoken in months. How do you make it 'official'?"

Friend: "I have to delete her off Facebook."

Wait, what?

I've been off Facebook for so long that I completely forgot that that was a concept. But it is a concept and it's something I've been guilty of doing.

Me and so-and-so get into a fight. I'm angry so I delete so-and-so off Facebook. Now it's official. We're no longer friends.

But guys (ladies. Whatever), I don't have Facebook anymore. In my (current) world, if I want to "unfriend" someone, I just stop talking to them. That's official enough for me.

This whole situation reminded me of one of the reasons I cut off Facebook to begin with. There was too much drama. Examples:

• "Why did you write on so-and-so's wall and not mine?"
• "Why haven't you liked or commented on any of my pictures?"
• "I saw you changed your status but you still haven't text me back."
• "You went to <insert place that person saw you were at due to a tag you got on Facebook> without me??"
• "Who is <insert name of someone who wrote on your wall>?"

Seriously people, these are all actual questions I received while on Facebook. I kid you not, it was extremely annoying and I felt like my life was being controlled, in a sense. Not to mention that I became a stalker and had to look at everyone's photos and know exactly what they were doing with their life, thanks to Facebook.

The downside to removing myself from Facebook is that I lost contact with a lot of people. If I ever wanted to reconnect with any of those people, I'd need Facebook to do it (for the most part).

The upside is that I don't need those people in my life. Removing myself from Facebook showed me who's actually my friend and who just cares about getting a response back on their wall.

Now I wonder how that friend would go about unfriending me... Not that she'd ever do that to me.